And if you send a message, should you be serious, or try to be funny, or flirtatious?
Better to focus on interests, or even better, common interests. Dating in your 50s-plus? The example above is more suited for a dating site where longer messages are the norm, but you can get her talking about herself on a dating app with a short message like this:. Did they write something so funny it made you spit out your tea? On a dating app like Tinder or Bumble, you can take a quick glance at her photos and bio to see if any common interests jump out. Wait until you've exchanged three to five messages first. Time it right If you're hoping for a speedy reply, it's probably best to send the message earlier in the evening or at the weekend.