Would you let your aging parent live with you if they were well enough, or put them in a nursing home? If I was hanging over an active valcano, would you run in and save me.
If you could be stuck on a desert island with anyone, who would you pick. Underarms can be a hairy subject. Try to elicit an honest answer. Beach bum, or thrill seeking traveler? You can both instantly compare whether you match in this area. And if you follow that logic to its conclusion, stupid people should be neutered.